I recently finished a book called I Thought It Was Just Me (But it isn’t): Making the Journey from ‘What will People Think’ to ‘I am Enough’ by Brene Brown, and wanted to share it with you.
It is a book about connection with others. And how shame can disconnect us from others. While the book is geared towards women and the most common categories of shame that we experience (appearance/body image, motherhood, family, parenting, money and work, mental and physical health, sex, aging, religion, being stereotyped/labeled, speaking out, and surviving trauma), the strategies Brown offers for working through shame can be applied by anyone.
Learning to recognize and understand our shame triggers is the first step. Next, we have to practice critical awareness, reach out to others, and then (perhaps the hardest step) “speak our shame.” Now none of these steps is easy by any means, but necessary. Necessary because they move us towards more connection, empathy, and compassion, with ourselves and others. After reading the material, I have another goal to add to my list for 2014—practicing these steps.
If you would like to read the book, or learn more, here are a few links (both to her book and to a couple of talks she has given).
Hoping your 2014 is off to a great start!